Ten Things Tuesday

Apparently I'm getting old, because once again, I'll start with the weather.

1. I am VERY thankful today is not 88 degrees like yesterday. Today is said to be TEN whole degrees cooler.

2. I just mailed off a whole bunch of paperwork that took me a week or so to get together, filled out & ready to mail off for/about the kiddos. I love having paperwork monkeys off my back!!!!

3. Son#3, my mom & I went for Chinese for lunch. I don't get to eat out with my mom often, or eat Chinese so it was nice. Not to mention an extra shout out for excellent behavior from son#3.
(Except when he double slapped my face in Ulta.)

4. Fundraising for sons#1 and #2--OVAH!!!! (read: over) Halleluah! They double teamed me this year & both schools sent them home at the same time.

5. I'm thankful for my neighbor Jennifer who brought over some extra Rib Crib take out they couldn't use. That's our dinner tonight folks & what makes it so fantastic is, I didn't have to cook it!!! Add chips...limeades....POOF--instant meal!

6. Our bus drivers & helpers. They are SO wonderful with our kids and sweet to them. The older vets that drive son#2's bus want updates this week after son#2 goes to dental surgery tomorrow morning. They love him so much. We're blessed to have such good people looking after our kiddos when they aren't with us.

7. One of my knitted hat pictures on Ravelry.com got chosen to be THE picture they show with that pattern as the example. It's not some big deal really, but in my mind, it was a lot flattering.

8. I'm thankful for meeting up with two friends last Friday night that I don't normally scrapbook with. One was there on my invitation, the other by chance. It was a fun suprise.

9. Okay, this ones a tad weird I know, but I'm very happy with a recent purchase of a cast iron dutch oven. I LOVE this thing. I'm using it for anything & everything lately. I can do meats in it & they don't splatter up on me like with a cast iron skillet. I have to love it since I'm washing it by hand & drying it as soon as I'm done with it. Thank you Paula Deen for this great investment idea for my kitchen.

10. Another strange thank you....Friday morning last week after the trashmen came (of course), I found someone had left a "present" on my sidewalk. A bag from potatos. With some rotten, juicy ones in the bottom. Have you ever seen that before? Ever smelled it?? Stinks to HIGH HEAVEN I kid you not! Like feet, throw-up & BO all in the same area. I was at a loss. What could I do with it? Not leave it on the sidewalk, and for sure not put it in the garbage can in the garage for the next 4 days. So I ended up leaving it outside next to the side of the house. I was rather embarrssed yesterday when the lawn guy saw it. Well, today was trash day. As soon as I got up this morning, my mission was to make sure hubbo did NOT forget to take that little prize to the curb. He didn't, and the potato poison potion is gone! Horray!!!

Ten Things Tuesday

Well, here we are again!



1. Just spent the weekend in Branson, had a blast with my brother & sister-in-law & kiddos. We did lots of shopping, eating, scrapbooking & mostly laughing.



2. Son#1 had school pictures today, son#2 has them tomorrow. Since they were little, they won't sit for portraits at professional places. So I really enjoy picture day at school, no matter how crazy it turns out.



3. Hubbo cleaned out some seriously messy places this weekend while I was gone. THAT was quite the turn-on to an old married lady.



4. My laundry is caught up--need I say more?



5. I get to scrapbook again this Friday with my peeps. I can't wait!! I even have a new bag!



6. I had messed up with my knitting before I left for my trip but I fixed it last night. That feels good. Like I can start back up again. I'm using Malabrigo Worsted in a butter yellow.



7. I'm thankful we're almost caught up on Smallville episodes. What a fun series that I didn't think I'd like but do! It's fun to escape into a TV show isn't it?



8. Son#2 seems to be behaving better & not screaming at us in huge fits of anger we can't understand. Hopefully he will feel better after being to the dentist Oct. 1st.



9. Son#3 is trying SO hard to use real words. He's babbled for awhile & you get a real word now and again. But now, he's really throwing out word syllables in context. We see the light ahead!



10. And I'm thankful for my blog being nominated to the "I Love Your Blog Award"!
Now I must post who threw me this nod--->Longhorn Diva
and now I must nominate at least four others.



My college friend Danna was the first to jump to mind...she is SO genuine you just hear the happiness in her life through her words. I find her stories of three girls VERY entertaining since I just know boy stories.



Shirley is always crazy busy with some project. I envy her energy & am always impressed with what she creates every time.



Sue, who not only knits, but sews, does jewelry designs and really just wows me with her craft accomplishments over in jolly old England.



Lynne who gets more garmet knitting done than anyone I know & shares the same decorating sense that I have.



And last but not least Abigail. I've never seen such a well rounded person who is so happily blessed and says so often. She has previously served in the Navy and now entertains us troops of knitters with her stories and wonderful finished projects.

Ten Things Tuesday

1. Such good weather, we're not having to use the air conditioning today. Can Fall be far away?! Shhh....let me dream.



2. #3 son and his exceptional sleeping abilities. I do not in any way take for granted he has from the begining been & still is, a fantastic sleeper for me. Just lay him down, POOF--he's out. For hours. This allows me to be selfishly sitting here doing what I want rather than emptying the dishwasher like I probably should be.



3. That Hubbo's t-shirt contest voting is OVER! Dennis Miller picked the winner last night and all will be revealed in the next couple of weeks where I assume the winning tee will be available for purchase.



4. My upcoming trip by myself to go see Hubbo's sister & her family in Branson this weekend. I think 4 hours in the car by myself with my ABBA cd & other 80's music is sounding mighty fun.



5. Because of Prilosec, I can enjoy a nice, fat PBJ for lunch again.



6. Online Hobby Lobby coupons for 40% off one item so I can get some scrapping stuff before my trip.



7. I'm thankful for knowing what I'm cooking for dinner tonight already. Chicken Fried Rice-->
http://www.tasteofhome.com/Recipes/Fried-Rice-with-Chicken





8. My foot does not hurt & is healing the fastest it's ever healed.



9. Son#1 was "Student of the Day" yesterday and very pleased with himself that he remembered to used good manners all day.



10. A husband that truly "gets" me.

The Dentist & Beetlejuice

We had a first here at our house this past Wednesday. We took son#1 to the dentist. And because of his sensory issues he would not ever allow a dentist to just LOOK in his mouth. Much less clean his teeth, poke around etc. He doesn't even allow us to wiggle teeth. So because of this we were at a surgery outpatient center Wednesday morning at 6am. Wowee, that's early!

Son#1 did well and got up and insisted on Teddy accompaning us as well as his Little Critter book, "Just Going to the Dentist". He said he wanted the nurses & doctor to have it for instructions. I had my knitting bag, recent People magazine and some coffee to wake my body up. We got straight in & son#1 was so brave! He put on his gown, kept his Cars pajama pants on. Used a heated blanket as a cape while drinking part of the "happy juice" provided by one of the nicest nurses ever. He got half down before he started gagging. After fasting since 8:30pm the night before, his empty tummy doesn't like sweet things first. Just like his mama.

The dentist/doctor came out to meet us and go over what his plan was. He was wonderfully helpful and we appreciated he wasn't going in to take everything & anything. Dr. Evan was so awesome & kid friendly in his red scrub pants & X-Men scrub top. He put son#1 at ease quickly although he was a good six foot four or better. Son#1 pointed out his book he brought and how if the dentist wanted to, son#1 would let him borrow it for instructions of what was to be done while son#1 slept. Dr. Evan was very agreeable and even said he loved books and had been brushing up on his the night before.

After the anesthiesiologist came in and gave son#1 an idea of the Darth Vader mask, we waited while he walked back by himself to the OR. He was so brave & I could tell the staff was very impressed and was probably expecting more of a fuss. I went off to the waiting room and Hubbo took off to go get son#2 up, dressed, fed and ready for the school bus. My mom had come the night before to stay the night so when we left someone here for #2 & #3. As soon as Hubbo had #2 gone and #3 up and dressed, he came back. But son#1's procedure didn't take as long as we'd thought so he just missed talking to the doctor/dentist. While waiting out front in the waiting room I was knitting and watching the news an older gentleman sat down beside me. We discussed some politics and got around to my son and how's not your typical child. Ironically, this gentleman's wife teaches D1, a class before kindergarten for developmentally delayed kids. She works in a metro area town and he drives buses for special needs kids in that town also. He was asking me all kinds of questions, and then right before he left, he said thank you. "Thank you for sharing your story of your children. I hope I didn't get too personal, but my daugthers son is not progressing as well with things and my wife & I have questioned it for awhile & didn't know what to say to my daughter. Thank you." I think my lesson I learned here is, you just never know who God will place in your waiting room for chit chat so make it worthy. He does so well placing people who need each other together doesn't he?

Son#1 came out of everything just fine! We were so so very proud of him. The dentist only had to pull 6 teeth and all were wiggly or had one waiting to come in. As we thought, his gums were sore and a problem, but he gave us a prescription for mouthwash to help that. (and it's already so much better!) He told us his jaw may be sore a bit from keeping his mouth open. Or he might need chapstick for a week. And they cleaned his teeth too. First time in 10 years...imagine that. Soft foods for the first few days & oh yeah, he has foam gel in the holes where he pulled the teeth to prevent dry socket and things getting in there while it heals. The gel can dissolve or fall out, no harm or big deal. Scared me the first time I saw one of those puppies come out though. I thought son#1 had some huge sinus problem or swallowed a bug larve!

I called his regular doctor when we got home and got topical rub-on meds for pain and throwing up called in. And son#1 did throw up by the time we got home poor kid. Dr. Evan called that night from home to check on him. What a nice man! We were so blessed. Son#1 slept a lot and by the next day, he was MUCH better & asking to play video games. There was a little problem finding soft foods without corners he'd eat since he's not your typical mac & cheese or jello kid. But he's back at school today and doing so well. We are so thankful for everyone's prayers and well wishes.
Because we were home with son#1 by 9:30am, and Hubbo would be home the rest of the day, I decided to bump my doctor appointment up to that same day. So at 2pm, off to the foot doctor I went. To have him work on the bottom of my right foot AGAIN--for the third time. I have a plantar wart. Well, actually FIVE. Apparently if you don't get them taken care of, like I didn't 8 yrs ago, they spread. Lovely. He's already seen me two other times, and it was so painful, Hubbo had to stay home at times because I couldn't walk for the first day. So I went back again, ready to beg this doctor not to do anymore because I couldn't afford to be off my feet any longer with my kids needing me the way they do. No dice. He sharpened the wooded end of a medicinal Q-Tip and applied more acid from a yep, you guessed it by the title...a BEETLE. Here is how they do it, and apparently, my old man foot doctor is a rouge according to this information:

"Cantharidin acid. Doctors and healers have used cantharidin — a substance extracted from the blister beetle — to treat warts for centuries. Today, this therapy is sometimes paired with salicylic acid. Your doctor paints this beetle juice onto your wart and covers it with clear tape. The application is painless, but it causes the skin under the wart to blister, lifting the wart off the skin. Your doctor can then clip away the dead part of the wart in about a week. However, some doctors are hesitant to use cantharidin because it's not approved by the Food and Drug Administration for the treatment of warts. "

So the foot doctor is seeing me every two weeks & widdling down the skin till the warts are gone. Guess I should have gotten it taken care of 8 years ago huh? The good news is that this time I convinced him to apply even less acid, so it really did hurt less & although it was pretty painful when I walked, I was at least able to walk this time. Hopefully, this is the last time.

And here is where I want to correct this in case any of you have to have this done. Yes, it is painless when he applies this beetlejuice. However, and this is a BIG, WHOMPING HOWEVER,

later that same day, expect it to hurt. First it burns. Then it starts itching. Then the blisterS start. For me, I get a blood blister the size of a pencil eraser & two other regular blisters slightly smaller than dimes. Try walking on THAT. No matter which side of your foot you try to walk on or the heel, you still pull or pinch those blisters. Fun, fun.

So now, the family is healed & back to life as we call normal, walking & eating. Until October 1st, when son#2 goes in to the same OR/dentist.....stay tuned for those details. I'm betting their whoppers compared to son#1.

Ten Things Tuesday

I'm stealing a wonderful idea from my good friend Danna--Ten Things Tuesdays! Here are ten things I'm thankful for today.

1. A cloudy, cool pre-fall day. That means less humidity too which is always nice.

2. For some time to myself this morning before the chaos of the next few days begins. (more to blog on that later)

3. Someone who can watch the baby for me tomorrow. (my mom)

4. My great book club that I saw last night. We had a few people drop out & say our books were "trite". Seems they obviously can't be intellectually stimulated by anything with a happy ending. That's fine, I like us just the way we are!

5. I'm thankful I get to scrapbook this Friday night. Horray for more girl time!

6. Wal-Greens pharmacy--Pharmacist Bob makes my life so much easier.

7. That I got to meet up with family this weekend I don't see often enough & we had a nice, happy, long lunch together.

8. My friend Teresa that is motivating me to get back in shape. She has quite a road ahead of her.

9. My neighbors that are sweet Christian people who look out for us.

10. That we can pay someone else to mow & edge the lawn. I do NOT miss yard work.

VOTE FOR HUBBO!!!!!

Hubbo, listens online to Dennis Miller's radio show. You might remember Dennis Miller from the funnier years of Saturday Night Live. Well, Dennis Miller had a t-shirt contest for listeners to submit ideas. Hubbo submitted three ideas, and they picked all three!!!

However, they decided to take the easy way out & post all the t-shirt ideas they liked online for people to vote on.

Hubbo's designs are, the wagon one, the Radio Rennesance/Michaelangelo of Dennis Miller (gold/yellow) and the Latin text one. You may not get the humor, Hubbo used things Dennis Miller says all the time as the base of the idea so don't worry if you don't get it or think it's funny. JUST VOTE!!!!! And he prefers you vote for the yellow one or wagon one, in that order.:) Page #3 if the link doesn't work.

http://www.dennismillerradio.com/tshirtcontest?action=listImages&ind=2

They say one vote per hour, however Hubbo just voted three times in one hour so go ROCK THE VOTE PLEASE!!!!!!!! Every day until the voting is closed. Please!

Don't Come, Don't Call, Don't Peek!

It's the first day of school! I've made it! And I guess more importantly, the kids survived as well.
I guess I should fill you in on some of the more exciting moments of the summer so you don't feel left out & can empathize with why today, I would like to be left completely alone.

Summer school went beautifully. #2 son did have a couple of hiccups & need to be picked up before the half day was out. But after MUCH, MUCH medicine adjustment, I think he is where he needs to be. It was at the begining of July when he developed a tic one morning. He started tipping his head to the side & swiping his cheek on his shirt. At first this seemed like nothing. Then he kept doing it, ALL day long. For some reason, this unerved me. I guess it was the proverbial straw breaking the camels back. Just one more thing this child does NOT need going on. Just one more thing for people to stare at. And just one more thing to go see a doctor about & try not to panic. We traveled all the way to Claremore & saw our favorite & best doctor. She was convinced this was not a tic but a nerve problem in the brain from prolonged use of his meds. It can become permanent so I guess Mommy had good reason to panic. We started immedietly weaning him off his meds he had been on for 2+ years. To say we were nervous was an understatement. But being that son #2 takes an anti-psychotic drug, you can't just stop. We've seen the Law & Order specials on what happens when you do that.

About the time we got down to one dose a day, he started acting out. Worse than earlier in the summer. It reminded us of when we first started him on the meds. So back up we went to two doses. The doctor did not think this was a level of dosing that should cause anymore of the side effects. Of course, this means messing with the dosing at the pharmacy and with the dreaded school nurse. We won't speak of her anymore now.

Son#1 had a good summer. He was happy with the three weeks between summer school & the regular school year starting. The computer & Wii saw lots of action. And he went to VBS at church as well. He made strides this year. Last July he wouldn't stay & watch dramatime with the kids dressed up acting out the Bible story. He was scared. This year, he stayed & even seems to have developed a crush on one of the teen girls in dramatime. Son#1 also found a girl favorite on the tv show, "I Survived a Japanese Game Show" too. Cathy. He would spell her name to me each week the show was about to come on. He practically cried when she was kicked off. I'm seeing a pattern here that he likes brunettes.

Son#2's summer consisted of meltdowns & taking his pull-up off & running around naked. My back aches from bending over to put his pull-up back on him for the millionth time a day! It is good news because this means he's figured out he doesn't want poo on him or to be wet. However, the idea of how on earth I'm gonna potty train this somewhat gentle giant, is a little daunting. It does NOT help, that son#3 has decided this summer to copy everything his peapod (son#2) does. They DO look hilarious running around the house naked looking like Jolly Green Giant & Sprout though.

Yesterday at meet the teacher I went to son#2's school and left him home. One of his friends, Mario was there with his mother. Lovely woman. She's fiesty, I like that. She mentioned one day she & her husband were sitting watching tv when pink stuff kept falling on them. And they heard scurring around up above. Thinking they had a rodent, they went to look in the attic. Mario was up there running across beams & hiding in the corner. Lucky he didn't fall through the part that wasn't floored. Her story reminded me of how we couldn't find son#2 one time. Searched everywhere & I was so worried and ready to go run around outside searching. We found him in the garage, sitting in the car.

Mario came right up to me & gave me kisses & hugs. His mother was worried, I told her I was used to it, son#2 does it as well. Stares into your eyes & kisses you. Of course, these boys ARE getting rather tall, and in 3rd grade now. But I didn't mind. Mario always smells SO yummy and like me, loves chapstick. He apparently doesn't like to be wet either because she said on a 7 hr trip to Austin, TX this summer, Mario did not pee his pull-up. Wow these kids are stubborn.

This summer son#2 has been making this noise we can't figure out. Remember that old beer commercial where the guys all called each other saying "Whazzzz uppp"?? Well, it's drawn out like that & sounds like "DUUUUUDE". At his school yesterday I figured out Mario was saying this too. And it turns out, son#2's girlfriend Emma, started this sound "BA-DOOOO" when she wanted to play ball. Lightbulb moment. I was so impressed that the kids were copying each other! This is a great sign!

Well, I apologize for not blogging this summer. I tried to save my energy to cook lunch & dinner. The heat got bad in the last part of July & August so I was conserving my strength. Plus a bored son#2, means the house is trashed each & every day. My blood pressure meds were making me VERY tired & out of it. And the best husband in all the kingdom did all our laundry & dishes. What a prince! But now, I'm on a new med, back to normal & we're still house hunting. Day by day. And today people, I'm in hiding. When the baby goes down to nap, I will actually be alone in my house for the first time since May. Tears may be shed.

There was a furniture store in the town I grew up in that would have a sale ever so often. And their commercial was, "Don't come, don't call, don't peek!" So I'm telling you, please, give me just this one day left to myself, and I'll be a new person tomorrow.

Best Friends

This past week I took my annual trip to spend some girl time away from my house. The Girl trip. I traveled with a friend from here where I live, and we met up with two of my friends from college who live in Dallas, Texas. There is a scrapbook convention in Arlington that we use as an excuse to get together & let our hair down. It really started as the main reason we went once a year. As time has gone on though, I notice we get less & less pages done.

We have a lot in common with each other that keeps us connected in many other ways besides our hobbies. Two of the four of us, have policemen for husbands. It's not an easy job being the worrier or the parent that's home during the regular hours of the day. Two of us have children that have some special needs. We get what it's like to have your kid not understood by people. Three of us went to college together and all four of us attend the same denomination of church. We have many connections and even though we have seperate lives and families, we always make the time for each other, this one time a year.

Our husbands and families take off work and time out of their own lives, to help us go have a good time. It's an important time for us all. Sometimes we think we can't make the time, the money (gas ain't cheap folks!) or get in the right frame of mind to relax & enjoy it. But we always do. It doesn't take long till we're smiling constantly, laughing till we ache and really hating how time moves so swiftly. Anyone begruding a mother a good time away from her family for an extended period, listen up. If that woman that folds your laundry, fixes you food and cleans up your children accidents doesn't get time away, she can't appreciate you all. She also can't stay sane. It's a proven fact. That woman will take cranky to a degree you didn't know it could see if you don't let her take some time that is purely for herself.

That means no picking up your dry cleaning on the way home, only call if you HAVE to ask her something and please do NOT ask her when she's coming back home. That will only drive her to stay away longer. There's being missed, and then there's breathing room. Let her have her space. Let her live again--like before she had children and responsibilities.
That's the whole point of our trip. We do NOT cut anyone's food up, we do NOT dress anyone but ourselves and we do NOT go to the bathroom with anyone else in the room either. I bet this is sounding very appealing to some of you out there.

My friends & I had a great time. We ate out at many places, shopped till our legs were so tired we had to sit down. Took many silly pictures, and we just had a really good time. We shared toothpaste, makeup, hairbrushes and even shoes. We stay up late talking about old times, old friends or just silly times we never told each other about before. Our topics rarely turn towards children or husbands. We try very hard to not talk about the responsibility "stuff" in our everyday lives. There's plenty of that during the year. It's all about us doing things we don't normally get to do for ourselves, saying things we don't normally get to say out loud, being around people our own age longer than normal and spending money on things that only matter to us. Together like this, we get silly, we say hilarious things to make the others laugh out loud, maybe even snort a drink out their nose and we are NEVER on our best behavior. In fact, the waiters usually think we've been drinking because we laugh so much & have so many crazy stories to explain our behavior.

What I treasured most this year was I didn't have to scarf down my food in a wolfish manner to try and keep up with when son#2 would be done eating. I didn't wipe anyone's butt other than my own and no one stuck their hand under the door while I was in the bathroom. Although, there was a camera that tried to worm it's way into my dressing room at the mall. When you're a mommy there are reigns on you like a horse. When you get time away, truly away from responsibility, you can relax in a totally different way that allows the inner Girl a way out. There are many times in every day life when you tell that Girl inside no. The Girl is the one that wants the pretty things, nice clothes, time away or to just do what SHE wants that day instead of what HAS to be done. And she wants to say whatever she's thinking without worring about little listening ears. But because your children or your family needs to do something else with that money or that time, she is rarely given a leash of true freedom to come out & play. There are deadlines for work, soccer games and meals to plan, buy for and fix. Laundry always calls to be folded and somehow there are more commitments than you remember commiting to. That inner Girl remembers what it was like when she was younger and has so many fewer responsibilities. She steps up and does what she needs to do. If I told you of how much my friends I have to deal with in every day life, you just might not believe me. That's why it's so important to come together. We know with each other, maybe not any other people, we can totally be ourselves. Let it all hang out I guess you could say. Total acceptance of all flaws, mistakes and ramblings.

In life you mostly have different friends for different areas of your life that you might need them. And that's why this group of friends I meet up with are THE best. The best means, they can cover me in ANY of those life situations that come up, even if we haven't spoken in 3 months, and STILL be the person I have the most fun with.

The good times of this year, might last us till next year, but I'm thinking we're getting greedy and may need a 6 month fun trip. See? That Girl, she's not always easy to squash back down when you've let her out all bra-less and free. She has a hard time readjusting back to real life.

The End of the School Year

It's here! Finally the end of the school year has come. My children attend ESY (extended school year) which allows them to stay in their routine & there's also less regression when school starts back up again. And I'll be honest, while other moms are looking forward to sleeping in during the summer, I don't mind getting up early to see them off to school. It may just be half a day, but that's half a day of freedom and less whinning. And let's face it, even Martha Stewart would agree, less whinning is a "good thing".

The end of school brought home a lot of extra papers the teachers were cleaning out & of course home-made Mother's day gifts. My favorite I don't mind saying is long stemmed lillies made with a cutout of son#2's hand & green pipe cleaners. PRICELESS! I have them in a marble vase. They are precious. Son #1 made me something of clay. I must say I don't know what I'll do with it yet, so for now it's sits on the treadmill. It's a nest with A LOT of little eggs in it. So picture hardened clay shallow bowl, and lots of tiny balls of hard clay. I can guess since with clay & playdough there are sensory issues with my son, that this was his way of making something he had to, in a hurry. What's faster than a bowl & some little balls of clay? So, I guess I'll put it next to the other TWO I have from previous years. Pretty soon, I'll have to get a family of birds to sit in them so people know what they are & don't mistake them for ashtrays.

And for the last little chuckle, I thought I'd share son#1's journal entries for April & May since you all seemed to like them before.

If I went the desert I would see..... "some birds. I would see a lot of sand."

When I loose a tooth..."at the dentist the tooth fairy gets me a new Lego Star Wars game." (can you tell who has a loose tooth at our house??)

I use a computer for..."brainpop jr."

My favorite PE activity is..."scooters. They go fast."

I stay strong by eating..."cheese ritz. I also eat Yoplait."

The biggest thing I've ever seen is..."Arrowhead (his school). It has so many rooms."

I'd like to become famous for..."Lord Vader , from Star Wars."

The last time I cried was..."when there wasn't Lego Star Wars for Windows."

My favorite assemble at school this year was..."about the earth."

The librarian at my school..."showed how to make strawberry ice cream."

If I ever got lost..."I call 911."

If I could build a robot..."he will be like Moby . (on Brainpop Jr.)

An animal I know a lot about is..."a panda. Pandas are cute."

Rollercoasters are..."cool." (my son has NEVER been on a rollercoaster)

When I go to the dentist..."she looks in my mouth."

A fun outdoor activity is..."Jedi Academy." (computer game)

If I were one inch tall..."I would be like an ant."

I want to take a field trip to..."my getto." (Apparently someone's been watching MTV)

At the library I..."can read."

I don't scream whenever I see...(he added DON'T) "ants."

Now I have to go & shower. My kids are gone to school for half a day and after a full day with all three of them yesterday, I'm a mess. Half days are good, but it's sort of like the start of the crab fishing season on the tv show "Deadliest Catch". I have to hurry to meet my quota of things to get done before time runs out and they come home.

Heaven & How You Get There

Son #1 came home from school yesterday in a rather brooding mood. I could tell something was up but with the pitch of his voice I decided to tread lightly. He had a wrapped "present". I asked who this was for, after much protest & whinning I won't subject you to, he allowed me to put it up on top of the tv cabinet so the brothers couldn't get it. Then I sat down to try & figure out what he was thinking about to make him so quiet & frustrated. He sat at the computer not playing it, but staring off at the tv. But I could tell by his fixed stare, he wasn't really paying it any attention. I sat down across from him.

me: "What are you thinking about babe?"

son#1: "Well, I don't want to grow up and be old."

me: "Okay"

son#1: "When you're 80 years old you die."

me: "Some people live to be 90 & 100 years old too."

son#1: "They do?"

me: "Yep."

son#1: "Well, I'm NOT going to heaven."

me: "Okay, but in heaven you don't have to sleep or eat, you just play & you're with God."

son#1: "Well, I'm not going because Papa never came back from there."

me-quietly: "That's right, you don't come back."

son#1: "Well, I'm not going then. I'm going to stay with the Swaims forever." (pause) What happens when you die?"

me: "You mean to your body? After you die, we have a funeral for your body. But you have a spirit inside you that tells you right & wrong, and when you die that spirit goes to heaven to live with God."

son#1: "Well, I'm NOT going. (pause) When is he going to ask me if I want to go so I can tell him no?"

me (chuckle): "Well, he doesn't ask you like that. He asks you to be baptized, which is where you hold your nose & go under the water & come right back up. And he asks you to believe that Jesus was God's son.
See, God had a son, like you're my son. And God's son's name was Jesus. And Jesus died like Papa died. After he died, God took Jesus to live with him in heaven. One day Jesus will come back, then all the dead people will live again and he'll take us all to go be in heaven with God. So you'll see Papa then."

son#1: (processing) "Well, I think Papa misses being here and playing his Hoyle games."(computer games)

me: "I bet he does too baby. I bet he misses you like you miss him. (pause) You know how Matt is your daddy and I'm your mommy? Well, Papa was MY daddy. And I miss him very much too. So it's okay for you to miss him and be sad about that because I get sad too."

son#1: "Yeah. (pause for processing & recognition starts to dawn on him) So Nana is your mommy?"

me: "Yep."

son#1: "She not dead."

me: "Nope, she's not."

son#1 smiles "Yeah. (pause) Well I still think heaven is evil."

me (sigh): "No honey, that's hell. We'll talk about that a different day."


**I had no idea how many times we say "well"--so I apologize, but it is how son#1 starts most sentences.

A Peek Into Our World-Sensory Issues 101

WARNING! Technical Mumbo Jumbo Ahead! But you might learn something too. Enter at your own risk.

Son #2 had a meltdown a few weeks back & "chinned" the teachers desk at school, breaking off parts of his two front teeth. He has a nice upside V for a hole there now. I call him Bunnicula now. But with this injury & discomfort has come many, many meltdowns with son#2 lately. He's unpredictable and it's not pretty. There have been many, many time outs in his room. So with meltdowns come people who stare. And many people who don't understand. The world is filled with plenty of people who don't want to understand. But for those of you that do, and are curious what a little part of Autism FEELS like--I wrote this.

I attended a Sensory Integration seminar at the therapy place my kids go to. Some of it was stuff I knew, other parts were eye opening. I figured if they were illuminating to me, some of you in contact with anyone like my children, might benefit from my interruption so why not share some of the internal processing that goes on with kids on the Autism spectrum.

You have your five basic senses that we all learn in school. Then there are three HIDDEN senses. Kind of like your Spidey senses. However kids on the AS (Autism spectrum), don't have an easy time FEELING these things that are second nature to us. This is where we need Sensory Integration for them. And SI (sensory integration) are different therapies that help them register the sense or feeling.

Tactile discrimination is the first & the most primitive sense. Your hair on your body is able to help discriminate some things with this sense. Like when you get that tingle on the back of your neck? Another example is your ability to determine what is in your hand without looking. If you're blindfolded & someone puts a feather in your hand and a rock in the other hand. You're able to differentiate between the two & tell what they are by tactile discrimination. And you don't really remember anyone teaching you how to do that do you? That's why theses senses are considered hidden or innate.

Then there's vestibular sense which has a lot to do with your posture and balance. It's like having a protective system within you. It tells you which way is up, how your body is oriented in relation to up, how your body is moving in space and when to throw up. When you start to fall you put your hands out in front of you. We say it's instinct but really it's called vestibular sense.

The last hidden sense is called proprioception and has a lot to do with muscles and joints & the nerve endings in them that send the messages to the brain. This sense lets you know how heavy something is, how far down it is when you take a step and it is stimulated by gravity. When you get up all groggy in the morning & go to the cupboard to reach in for your coffee cup, you know how much force to use for picking up the weight of that cup. If you close your eyes and extend an arm out to the side and then to the front, there is a sensing of where the hand is located in space in relation to the body itself. Especially when the muscles of the hand are flexed. Try it. You sense/feel the arm more (eyes closed!) when your hand is in a fist. That's because you're stimulating nerves by making that fist.

The reason these senses are important is because SI (sensory integration) is the foundation of emotional regulation & learning. You want to know about Autism? Non-Verbal Autism? It's hard to get in their heads & tell you what's going on or how they feel, but this might enlighten you. We knew what it was, but now we know WHAT causes these meltdowns to happen to son#2.
Autism is a neurological problem in the brain. It's essentially roadblocks that don't allow communication & other basic fundamentals, things we don't even remember learning, to happen in a normal way. Because of this neuro/nerve problem, things are wired a tad differently inside of them. Where it's easy for us to use our hidden senses, theirs are either too heightened or to dull for them to get the messages their nerves are sensing. Therefore we have to stimulate them to FEEL & SENSE these things. These basic skills help our "neuro makeup" & underlying learning process to progress and react in a developed way.

Here is the best example of this I can use. When son#2 can't figure out how to communicate what he's wanting to one of us, or can't figure out how to tell us how he feels, he melts down. A meltdown is just the new word for tantrum. But you can imagine at 96lbs and 7 years old, there's more heft behind the kicking & screaming. Remember my post about the terrible two's? Those are manageable tantrums...when it goes to the extreme, we call it a meltdown. Scratching, flailing around, wailing and much gnashing of teeth. The severity of this is determined by several things. How badly he wants or needs "it" whatever it is at that moment. How tired he is, how hungry he is, how many times he has to take us to the place or item to get his point across, if we've said no and if he is due for his meds.
The medicine allows son#2 to reel back in the emotions and fervor and get it back together enough to function again. Sometimes he's too far gone & it takes an hour or more to get himself back together. Part of this is maturity. All kids learn this when transitioning from baby to child. Other parts are where an Autistic brain is different than our own. (thought I'd forgotten my point didn't you?) Son #2's brain, isn't processing the same information as ours when we're doing the exact same task. Because of his deficits in that area, it will interfere with the creation of ideas or connecting them together, and analytical thinking. Hence the non-verbal part.

When people say the Autism spectrum is wide ranged, they aren't kidding. No kid is exactly like another in the world, and Autistic kids get even more unique and personalized in their way of learning, communicating and finding their way in the world.
The perfect example of this uniqueness is son#1 is getting over stimulation to his sensory system. Whereas son#2 is not getting enough. Now this isn't true with EVERYTHING, but with most things, this is how they are integrating. Over & under. Yet, both are Autistic.
So son#2 feels better when he swings. This goes back to the point of vestibular sensing. It calms him because he isn't processing what he's sensing correctly. He isn't sure of what he's feeling. He's not sure of his body in the world. Sort of like an astronaut in space? So swinging stimulates the inner ear where gravity & our body are centered & gives son#2 extra stimulation to FEEL himself there. Other ways are weighted vests and blankets sort of like the x-ray apron they give you at the doctor's office. It's weighted & feels good to them. Like yoga, they feel centered & that allows them to feel calm. We like calm. You can learn better when you're calm.
Jumping is the best thing though. All those endorphins released by jumping & bouncing up against things. You feel alive & very happy. Or that's what their faces say to me.

So maybe I've given you a little peek into what it's like to be Autistic. Maybe you see now where some of the frustration comes from in those kids you see melting down. Doesn't always make it easy to deal with, but that kid at the store, may need more than that spankin you're thinking of. Would you feel that way if he was blind? Without certain senses I think there's an adjustment period where your body & your brain have to come to terms with each others abilities. This takes time and patience. And more importantly, there's a learning curve. Whether this Autistic Spectrum child is in your classroom, your church or is in your family--you are his classmate. His learning curve will effect you. Why not help him out? It'll help YOU out in the long run.

10 Years Old

I struggle with my oldest son turning ten years old yesterday. I'm not sure I know how this happened--it seems all of the sudden he's getting hair on his upper lip & legs. He doesn't want to sit on my lap or let me kiss him in public. It went slow in parts but sped up near the end here. When people tell you it goes faster the older you get, BELIEVE THEM.
The funniest thing is, he's in less of a hurry than I am for him to grow up.

Son #1 has been worrying about getting older. Last night he finally answered me when I asked why he didn't want to grow up & be older.
"Because then I'll die, and I don't want to die!" Aww! I had to explain that he won't die, and even if he did it would be a long time from now. I looked back at all the times during his interest in death in recent years, when we had consoled him by saying, "Everyone dies, but you won't die till you're old(er)." Mr. Literal took that to heart it seems. All month he's been saying, "I don't want to grow up & be a big boy!" or "I dont want to be ten, I want to go backwards & be eight years old!" My response? "Honey, I've tried that since I was 29 years old--doesn't work."

He had a great birthday, enjoyed money in the mail & from the bus drivers. (we do have the best here) So last night I took him to Wal-Mart to shop. We got Shrek 3, a "Bling Bling Lightning McQueen" car, and some Lego Clone Storm Troopers. (I bet I botched that last name up...)
All mommy had to contribute was $.27--not too shabby! We got him a Millienum Falcon with "crew" that were from the Galactic Hero sets & some more Lego Clone Troopers. Even the cake was Star Wars & strawberry as he requested, but he didn't partake. Maybe one day he'll eat his own birthday cake.

Son#1 had also been asking for a Wii controller for his birthday, I very nicely explained that wasn't what he was getting. Interestingly enough, I think he would have been happy with just the controller. Hubbo informs me in a household where I'm outranked 4 to 1 in sex, a game system is imminent or a birthright, I'm not sure which. He's just trying to decide between an XBox360 or a Wii. But I have my OWN system I plan to implement when that time comes though. I feel son#1 should earn his time to play video games. So I'm stealing an idea from a friend of placing time values on poker chips in 15 minute allotments. Then he can do chores like bringing me trash from the bathroom, help when we ask to bring us something, etc. And if the surly boy attitude insues that seems to have overtaken him the past year, he coughs up a chip/playing time. This ought to work. I'm very optimistic actually. Now, the big question is, will it work on Hubbo?

Signed-"Tired Of It" in Tulsa

I wrote this a couple of months back & let it sit in my drafts folder while I contemplated my wording. I emailed it off this morning after a couple of revisions. Hopefully I'm not the only one tired of seeing/hearing about dead kids in every news headline.



I start by saying I've been a huge fan of "XYZ News Channel" and your web site since 9/11. My husband and I became news hounds as much of America did then. We watched your whole evening line-up of shows and felt that we got to know the very personable hosts you have for each news piece or segment. Over the years, we've grown attached to and worried for A. Kelly, B. Leventhal and C. Harrigan out in the field. Each show has it's own flavor & we've appreciated what each host brings to the table. We consider "XYZ News" hard hitting and a high caliber of honest journalists.

I've also appreciated how you don't assume your viewers are ignorant and don't talk down to us. No matter how many people doubt it, we do believe you let us, the people at home, decide for ourselves once you present the facts. We've also been fans of the web site. I've had it as my homepage on my computer for years now. I check it several times a day & update my husband at work where there's "breaking news". I didn't really care for the last change of the appearance on the web page, but I remained a fan & kept with it even though I felt it was harder to navigate & follow.

However, I tell you this to let you know now I am finding a huge disappointment in your web site lately. The past 8 months or so I've noticed the main headlines at the top that greet me every morning are not pleasing. I realize the real world is full of displeasing people and things. It's not all unicorns & rainbows out there. But to have the story or headlines I see every morning to be about children dying in our country at the hands of their parents has me sickened and fed up.

Most recently when I logged on, I've seen someone has murdered their three month old baby & then thrown him and his carseat from their car on the highway. And there is this beautiful baby's picture large as life staring at me next to the headline. Or very recently the toddler beaten to death with the video game controller. While I am saddened by the deaths of celebrities, athletes and people who've touched our country's history that are reported, I can accept their deaths much easier. Maybe some of us being mothers we are affected more deeply by those horrific things. But I honestly believe, no one wants to hear any more about these cases so prominently and so very often in our daily news. My friends and I have talked about it, my husband has agreed. It's not necessary.

I really believe now after seeing so many, that the attention these heinous crimes receive, breeds more. I'm asking you to please not tell me at the top of your web page, so boldly displayed, about the mother who microwaved her baby. Don't show me pictures of what a sweet baby he was. I can't take any more. I no longer need to be told about the sex crimes and hate, touching the children of the world EVERY morning with my coffee or while I eat my dinner. Your headlines alone chill me sometimes. They can effect ones mood for the next hour or sicken you from taking that next bite of food. Just reading the words stays with me like pictures from an accident you wish you'd never seen.

I'm asking you to at least highlight these terrible stories in a certain color and relocate them down the page so when my eyes skim your headlines, I can choose not to read the words. With television, you can change the channel or mute it. With Internet though, it's different. Please do something where I don't have to know the horrific details to each & every crime to a child in this country. Otherwise, I'm afraid I'll be forced to find a new homepage for my browser.

~A Sincere Fan, But Tired Of It
Tulsa, Oklahoma

The Yellow Brick Road

I recently got an email for my 15th year, high school reunion that will be held in my hometown this summer. I've never gone to one of my high school reunions. I've really tried to think back to why I haven't cared to go or participate and I think going away to college and hardly coming home, had a lot to do with it. The distance probably grew greater each year. Then my parents moved to Oklahoma and after college, Hubbo and I followed. We felt it only fair since I had their only grandchild. So here I am finding myself in Oklahoma, not having been back to Joplin, Missouri since 1999. I went back then, for one of my best friend's nursing school graduations. Getting the invitation to the class reunion I noticed the contact people were some old friends. It was nice to get in touch & catch up with everyone via email & phone calls but I did decide that wasn't going to be enough. I was really beginning to wonder how different it was or wasn't and what it looked like now. Saturday I took off for the day, to see old friends and old familiar places.

My first throw back memory was passing the town of Vinita on the highway. They have an interesting rest stop there I used to make my parents stop at each time we went through. Not many kids can say they've been to the McDonalds in the sky. With all glass on both sides, you can eat while watching the cars go by on the highway below. What kid wouldn't think that was a cool thing?

The trip didn't take as long as I remembered as a kid either. Even with construction I was making pretty good time. I did notice a lot of Illinois license plates out on the highway though. Now, I'm gonna assume you don't know where Joplin is, so I'll tell you-it's in the southwest corner. They call it the "Four State Area" down there because its where Kansas, Missouri, Oklahoma & Arkansas all meet & touch.

I was enjoying the view even though it was overcast until I realized I might possibly be going a little too leisurely. I saw two white-haired women with a folded up walker in the back window of their car, pass me and two semi trucks. And you know how you usually catch up with a car like that eventually & feel justified that you were not in fact going slow, they were just in some big hurry to get to the same stop light you're going to? Yeah, didn't happen. They smoked me & I never saw them again.

Once in Joplin, I met up with old friends. We laughed till we cried, we talked about anyone & everyone that we could remember and we ate at wonderful places with great food and atmosphere. It was fabulous to see "home" again and surprising to see what had changed. All the places I figured were gone & closed, were still there. And that was more shocking than the expected progress of the main strip of restaurants, the mall and stores. I never noticed we have a church on almost every corner, and I'm pretty sure there were not that many tattoo parlors when I was growing up. Joplin seemed more populated or at the least more vehicles & lanes of traffic to get stuck in.

I got to drop by my friends parents house & say hi. Although her mother tried to coerce us into our usual duet at the piano, I assured her my large lunch wasn't having any. It was striking to see how their house had changed, but the bathroom we got ready in to go many places, still held that note of hairspray in the air which was touching.

I was really disappointed that so much on Main street was let go, but that at least no one had bulldozed it yet. Spaghetti Red's was still there & open for business as well as the Pearl Brother's Tru-Value hardware store downtown. For some reason, those things made me happy. A little touch of Mayberry I guess. My house I grew up in got the award for most changed. A white church bus in the backyard gave it a quality my parents never could apparently. And I could see the tree I planted as a tiny switch (those of you unfamiliar with this term need to really be thankful) in the backyard, is now much taller than the house.

I think what I learned the most from my trip was the past is only the same in your mind. Even if I'd stayed in town to go to college, or come back to Joplin to live, it wouldn't have stayed the same town I grew up in or remembered. The town changes, the landscape changes and the people change. Life isn't what we think it'll be, it just goes on around us. I know this sounds obvious but it took awhile to sink in I think.

I don't know why I avoided going back for so long. Maybe I've learned to dread change. With my life dealing with the kids issues, we deal in a lot of gray areas around here. You can classify Autism many ways, but never does it fit into black or white. So we like to map out as much black & white for them & us as we can. It makes it easier on the kids & those of us who live in their chaotic world. I think going back to Joplin would have been a little harder to categorize. It's all gray for me now. Or maybe it's the same reason I don't go by my grandma's house every time I'm in town visiting my mom. In my mind, it looks the same as the last day I was in it. And I like it that way. I don't need that bubble being burst by visual of a dirty van parked outside and pink walls. Too much. That complicates the memory. And complicated memories aren't as comforting are they? In life we get all kinds of bubbles burst, so maybe trying to control some of that is normal. Maybe not, but it's the way I roll.

Confusingly for me, I have all the memories of that person that grew up in Joplin. The life where I was a kid, carefree & someone else made all the decisions. The responsibilities that come with being an adult can age you beyond the years you feel you are in actual years. My dilemma was how to merge my past person with my present self. Now I'm not sure I can. Maybe I'll just unlock that part of me when I'm in town.

My new reality of my hometown is, it's the same but it's different. Just like me.

Spring Break Me

Well it's been Spring Break here this week. The kids were out of school last Friday & go back this Monday. Does it make me a bad mommy to know the hour count on that?

Let's see if I can give you a run-down of the activities here at the House of Pain.
Son#1 & son #3 can NOT be in the same room without fighting with one another. Usually over a toy #1 thinks #3 shouldn't have, touch or breathe on. And if it's not that, it's #3 pushing #1's button. The power button to the tv that is. He knows #1 comes UNHINGED when he does that repeatedly. It's like someone snuck him a manual for "Top Ten Things to Annoy a Sibling 101". From a different room in the house they sound suprisingly like cats fighting and hissing at one another. I'm about to get a spray water bottle out for them here pretty soon.

Son#2 is still having some issues. He was melting down every day last week, which just isn't like our happy (properly medicated) #2 son. So when he started here this week it escalated. I think he misses school. He's inflicted some good scratches & gotten me good a few times across the neck too. He also went to the doctor last week. Apparently I'm not shrinking, which is good news that I won't have to start taking any calcium like that pill pushing Sally Field takes. However, it does mean son#2 has grown ONE INCH and A HALF since AUGUST. That is a lot people. He's now 4ft 7 inches and weighs 96 lbs. His height puts him well over the 98% percentile for his age group. The doctor was thinking he was 9 years old, till I reminded her he doesn't even turn 8 until this summer. I think gobsmacked might be the right word for what her face expressed. I'll take a picture soon of son#2 & myself alongside each other. He's gaining on me & I'd lay odd he's taller than me WAY before he hits puberty.

Son#2 also had a painful week because he's loosing and has lost a toenail. Apparently with his high pain threshold we never knew months ago that he had dropped something on his big toe & smashed the nail. Well, it seems it was loosening this week & he snagged it on something. (we do all nail cutting at night in this household--sensory issues & it seems to be a tradition in my husbands family) So #2's been hopping around the house, squealing & sqwaking at us if we bump him or come near it & really tried to hurt me when I thought a bath was a good idea. I've lost a toenail too, and I remember the pain, but I didn't bite anyone. I just wanted to kick them through a wall if they breathed on me. Needless to say, #2 is having a rough week which in turn results in a rough week for me. But the doctor like us, believes this growth spurt puts him in need for a new dose for meds. Which is what we're changing up so hopefully son#2 will be back to his happy self come Monday morning. I know I will be come 8:30am!

And then of course there's the car wreck hubbo was in Tuesday night. Tons of rain, many of you got the email I sent out about it so I'll make this the short version. Woman distracted in rain didn't notice him waiting to turn left, rear ends him/our car, and pushes him into the other oncoming lane. Good thing nothing was coming & a witness sitting on our street saw the entire thing. No one was hurt thank goodness, but our car is banged up, perhaps totaled. But how backwards is it that all the phone calls to insurance agencies, stress, hair pulling and the like, have to be made by US? We were NOT at fault, yet we miss hours out of our day/work, taking care of this? I think she should have to since the accident was her fault. She was apparently very upset at the thought of telling her husband. I feel like even THAT wasn't punishment enough for her. Especially for someone named Mindy who spells it M-E-N-D-I-E.

So Spring Break has just about broken me. I think I'll survive this last day. Matt's off tomorrow so I will tag him in after he sees the doctor. (he's starting to feel some whiplash) Hopefully, son#2 won't smell the weakness in him because I'm going to a movie!

Cigettes, Lice & Speeding

I've saved up some little son#1 tidbits to share. I'm also starting to think this Brainpopjr.com is waaaaay too smart for it's own good. First it's Presidents & the Civil War, now we're on to divorce, cigarrettes & lice!? Sigh!

Cigettes are cigarrettes. My son came excitedly off the bus awhile back telling me he had seen some stranger down the street, through the bus window with a cigette in his mouth. Not knowing WHAT he was talking about I was not as excited as he was or wanted me to be. I asked what a cigette was & he said, "Annie & Mobie say a cigette is a white stick with fire on the end. It's very bad for you."
me: "Okay, I see what you're saying now. Come on inside, we'll talk about it later."

son#1 "Okay, but I tried to yell through the window on the bus to tell the stranger with the cigette that it's bad for him, but he couldn't hear me. Shouldn't we go find him?"

me: "Uh no. No, not right now. Just get inside."

Later, he tells us at bedtime about how cigettes makes your lungs go from pink and healthy to black.

son#1 "Julie, did you know that if you smoke cigettes, your lungs will turn black like Darth Vaders?"

me: "Yes, I knew that. How do you know Darth Vader smoked cigettes though?"

son#1 "Well, remember he was on fire in Episode 3 on Mustifar and then his lungs were black & he had to have that box to talk?"

me: "Oh yeah, good point. Good night honey."

This morning, son#1 runs back to where I'm at in my room, telling me to come quick, there's two somethings outside. Now he mumbles and talks low, so it's always hard to hear him. Especially when he says something & sprints away in the middle of it. So I run out there thinking sons 2 & 3 have broken out & are roaming freely in the front yard. I had the storm door locked but the front door open. Nope, they're fine. But what son#1 is excitedly jumping up & down to show me, and pointing at repeatedly, is two "strangers" (our neighbors across the street) sitting on their front porch smoking cigarrettes. Nice. He's trying to open the front door while he's yelling,

"Hey strangers! Don't you know if you smoke those cigarrettes your lungs will turn black!? Strangers, over here, hey, don't smoke those cigarrettes, it's bad for you!"

I quickly shut the door & explained FIRST, we do NOT point at people. It's not polite. Then I gave the shortened version of some people make bad choices and one of those might be to smoke cigarrettes. We can't stop them or tell them it's bad for them, they are grownups, they know it's bad. And children are to NEVER smoke a cigarrette. It would make them sick.

son#1" Yeah, it sure is a bad choice to turn your lungs black."

So as a rule, if you didn't know, cigettes (which I think sounds much better than cigarrettes) are bad for you. And I don't think I'll be able to borrow a cup of sugar across the street for awhile.

Last month we're tucking in the boys to bed and son#1 always has something to say before we leave the room. Imagine that. I don't know WHERE he must get that talking thing he does. Anyway, so he is scratching his legs & all over his, head & his body. Part of this I assume is his dry Ezcema skin he's had since he was a baby and the other, well, he's almost 10 years old and hair is starting to appear on his legs. (that's a whole other blog) So his scratching is just making me think it's a sensory issue with the feeling of the air hitting his leg hairs or dry skin.
We start to leave the room and he says:

son#1: "You know, lice are parasites that live off of other plants or animals in order to survive. They may make your head tickle or itch. People should avoid scratching as much as possible. Scratching can lead to infections and worsen the problem."

me: "Why do you know this? (like I shouldn't have figured this one out already) And why are you telling me about lice?"

son#1: "I learned it from Annie & Mobie on Brainpopjr.com. And I think I have lice on me making my legs itch."

me: "NO-you don't. I promise. There are NO lice on you. Now stop scratching & go to bed."

son#1: "Lice live close to the scalp, where they feed on your bloods."

me: "You DO NOT have lice. Now stop scratching & go to sleep."

son#1: "Okay, good-night Julie"

me: "Good night baby."
(pause)
me: "Son, you didn't wear anyone's hat today or use their comb at school did you?"

So I think you can see just HOW educational brainpopjr IS to our children. All those discussions you may not know how to handle or what to say, let Annie & her robot Mobie tell them about divorce & using their friends hairbrush. Sigh!

Yesterday, son#1 was in the car while I was driving. He asked me if we can take the car to the 120 on the spedometer. I laughed and said no. This reminded me of going to my grandmothers house when I was little & an overpass we would travel on. I always wanted my dad to go "3-0" to see how many cars or trucks we'd "run over".
So anyway, son #1 says, why can't you go to 120? This is a good question. If your car is only by law allowed to go to 75mph or 80mph, WHY do they make it's capability for 120mph? This brought on a discussion about speed limits & the signs posted to tell you how fast you may go in certian areas. He watched me like a hawk all the way home. Then I heard a gasp at one point, I ask what is it. And he tells me:

son#1: "You went over the 40 that's the speed limit. Will the policeman take you to jail?"

me: "No, there's not a policeman here. He might stop me if I'm going more than two over the limit. Then he gives you a ticket and you have to pay a lot of money."

son#1: "And you have to say your sorry to him huh?"

me: "Yes that's right." (under my breath--"Among other things.")

Thanks Brainpopjr for turning my son into a cigarrette speed nazi! Sigh!

Men ARE From Mars & Women Just Do It Better

I can't say that with ten more years of marriage, I'd be any closer to understanding the way a man thinks. I heard it described as they have boxes they pull out & put back, one at a time in their brains. Where we women have jumble of wires in our brains that have everything connected to each other. Which might explain those sporadic shifts of conversation they think we pull out of nowhere. **Although I don't believe this explains Paula Abdul. I really have no clue what her problem is.**


Men & women deal with situations differently and also approach the problem from completely different angles. I'm throwing this out there because today when I went to get some eggs of the fridge to make son #3's birthday cake, THIS is what I found.
Do you see the scotch tape on the end!!?? Do you know what it's covering? A crack. When we brought these home Saturday, and hubbo was putting them up, there was one egg with a crack. I told him to gently leave it on top, I'd use it up in the next two days. I think his guy mind said, "No, I can fix this."
So this is how the male mind decides is the best, easiest fix to a cracked egg. Scotch tape. Not the way I personally would have approached it, but he gets points for inventiveness.
I guess I'm just lucky he didn't use duct tape huh?

A Review of Febuary & A Dash of Politics Thrown In

My oldest son brought home a journal of Febuary. I get the idea each day of the week in the month, the teacher passes out a page first thing in the morning with a primed sentence at the top for the kids to fill in as they see fit. Actually, there's a lot of lines so they can expand on the subject I guess. Being a boy who is very literal, has few subjects that interest him, makes it an interesting read to put it mildly. See if you can count how many times you would have said "DUH!" or "Here's your sign". Oh and I've already told you that he doesn't call me mom, just by my first name. I've underlined son#1's answers.


When the groundhog sees it's shadow it is sunny.

If I could fly a plane I would go to Arbys.

If animals could talk they would say thanks.

When I get money I will buy Lego Star Wars 3.

Abraham Lincoln was born.

Valentine's day is fun because I eat chips.

I get nervous at school when there is no chips.

I was mean to someone when I turn to the Dark Side.

Swimming is fun because it is not fun.

We celebrate George Washington's birthday because he was born.

At school I don't like to do handwriting.

I wish I had a panda. I also wish I had no school for weekdays.

If I lived underwater there would be fish.

My family always eats lunch.

When I have a problem I talk to Julie.

I get grouchy when I do handwriting.

My favorite song is Star Wars.

The best part of winter has been snow.

I want to write Valentine cards for Julie.

(and my favorite & last in the journal)

The President is supposed to talk to people.

Things I'm Thankful For

Since January I've had a double (middle) ear infection which caused vertigo, which brought on weeks with no end, migraines. After a handy trip to the chiropractor (my first!) where he "cracked" my ears, I have found relief! Therfore I am realizing some things I am VERY thankful for.

**Being able to take a shower & close my eyes when I shampoo my hair & not tip over into the wall.

**Sleeping without three pillows.

**Not needing 6 pills every 4-6 hours.

**The ability to lean my head into the kitchen sink to wash my hair without wanting to puke.

**My patience has increased.

**I've even stopped running into things.

Now, if I can just get Sally Field to quit appearing on every channel I turn it to, telling me how she's taken her osteoporsis medicine for the month, I might just survive.

Be My Valentine

It's happened! I have a son with his first girlfriend!! If you've read many articles or watched many 20/20 specials on Autism you probably realize it's not something that affects girls as often. That being the case, my sons have not gone to school (they are in 4th & 2nd grades) with more than one girl. Ever. And if you have seen pictures of my sons, you know they all have big brown eyes with long, thick eyelashes. Since babies they have & still do, flirt with every woman cashier or checker they come across at stores. I even ran into a woman that used to be a secretary at #1 son's school a couple years ago. When I mentioned his name, she lit up & said she knew just who he was. The big brown eyes, hugs and kisses are pretty hard to forget with him. Well this year is the second girl, and she is in #2 son's class. Her name is Emma and she has blonde hair.

Well the teacher called this afternoon & told me that #2 son had seemed a little off today. He wasn't eating his lunch which was odd for him. Not to mention it was macaroni & cheese with green beans. He ate the green beans but that was it. Most odd. Now, he does love him some green beans. He'll eat those first & then scout out everyone elses plates to see if they have any beans left before he'll go on to the other food on his plate. I guess little Emma was worried about him & decided today to willingly share her green beans with #2 son. Awwww!

The teacher also informed me that Emma & #2 will play chase around the room, giggling & laughing like hyenas. There is also a recliner in the classroom the teacher brought from home that the kids basically ignore. Except for Emma & #2 son. They tend to "fight" over it. Each trying to sit down first & then raise up a hand or extending a leg to ward the other off. Then they'll try & sit on top of each other or side by side, trying to wedge the other one out of the chair. All the while, smiling and laughing like gooney birds.

This may not seem like anything but the usual kid cuteness, but it's rare among children like my son. I think Emma can maybe talk a little, I've only met her once & can't really remember. The other kids in the room all ignore each other. Most are in the baby stages where it's all just self-awareness. They're not really concerned or aware of others around them. I know #2 ignores them, unless he's paying attention to what they have on their plates. But he doesn't Emma. So for them to recognize each others presence & interact with one another on a regular basis...well this is more than just cute. And if I know my son, he's batting his dark brown eyes and smiling his big toothy grin, winning over his first girlfriend.